tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post4782700895574125235..comments2023-08-21T07:49:51.052-04:00Comments on Life of an Army Wife: A Little BitterRebeccahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-63015972771644073072012-10-10T15:57:42.978-04:002012-10-10T15:57:42.978-04:00I have guilt sometimes when I post about a pregnan...I have guilt sometimes when I post about a pregnancy, but I just think to myself...my friends and family get to have pregnancy and mommy blogs after an easy conception...why can't I speak about mine after struggle? I do understand when a blogger holds off for a long time, especially if people she knows reads her blog and she doesn't want them to know yet. But I do wish we could celebrate with them sooner.<br /><br />It's a little painful sometimes, but usually 80% of fellow IF bloggers want to support and be happy for each other. ADSchillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13972164121690415796noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-73204567791105826382012-10-10T00:27:38.854-04:002012-10-10T00:27:38.854-04:00I always look forward to your blog posts about V a...I always look forward to your blog posts about V and your weight loss. Wishing I could be so good about my diet and exercise.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-23150740712188380892012-10-09T21:33:23.495-04:002012-10-09T21:33:23.495-04:00It is unfair, and it is conflicting.
I don't ...It is unfair, and it is conflicting.<br /><br />I don't post as much because I don't want to just post about my son on my blog. I keep fumbling over the same topics though, trying my best to be sensitive and yet wondering if I should bother... I lost followers after he was born, so theoretically the people who would be offended by my posts have left, right?<br /><br />Before I had him, I did get bitter sometimes... it was a manifestation of my self pity. Which did run rampant at times, especially after my losses. Despite that, I never stopped following anyone because they got pregnant or had a baby. I was still happy for them, even if I was incredibly sad for me.AnotherDreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11487881766884178761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-34701702415815163062012-10-09T18:00:25.088-04:002012-10-09T18:00:25.088-04:00Until I went down the infertile road I used to be ...Until I went down the infertile road I used to be happy for all women that got pregnant. I became bitter when after trying for years and then losing my first pregnancy. It did take time to heal those hurts. I've lost three more pregnancies since last year when I did my first IVF in Oct. Each one made me sad. I was angry at myself, my spouse and my doctors. I thought that perhaps more could have been done. Sometimes it does just happen for no known reason. I have the right to my anger for what happened but I don't have the right to spread anger to others that have found joy. Especially the ones that felt sorrow at my loss too.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-87639723284738790372012-10-09T17:55:59.714-04:002012-10-09T17:55:59.714-04:00If we keep feeding our anger we become a shell of ...If we keep feeding our anger we become a shell of who we used to be. As much as we find it cruel to say to someone that has been mourning a loss for too long they really do have to let it go before it ruins the relationships that they once held dear.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-57674106441071687652012-10-09T17:54:16.032-04:002012-10-09T17:54:16.032-04:00It might be easier on my hands but seriously I do ...It might be easier on my hands but seriously I do have a yarn addiction. I can justify all the yarn expenses if I'm creating things for my shop to sell. Years ago I just used to say that I was making blankets for the family members. I ran out of people to give blankets to. Then I went to scarves. One Christmas every family member got a scarf. My addition is just insane. Still by making the baby hats I keep some hope that maybe I'll one day be making a hat for my own baby.Rebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-27225211842894417442012-10-09T17:47:07.101-04:002012-10-09T17:47:07.101-04:00I was wondering - would it be easier not to do bab...I was wondering - would it be easier not to do baby knitting for you at the moment? I know I couldn't have when I was going through treatment. Maybe you're tougher than I am, though!Sushigirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15692271287979209910noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-56464905388699889832012-10-09T13:34:56.898-04:002012-10-09T13:34:56.898-04:00Great post, Rebecca!! I have read too many blogs r...Great post, Rebecca!! I have read too many blogs recently about women being bitter about other people's pregnancies and finding it hard to be supportive etc, I find that really very sad. <br />I personally have never allowed myself to go down that path or be that person. Life is NOT subjective, we cannot compare our lives with other peoples. That is their journey and their success is NOT a reflection of my journey/success or failure. I do not get why women are bitter, its okay to feel sad about your own situation and wish you could have a similar happy news, but to be bitter and unhappy about someone else good news? That is so wrong. Well that is how I see it anyways. Sunflowerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12666376683383060063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-36065643025215238842012-10-09T12:54:30.434-04:002012-10-09T12:54:30.434-04:00It's interesting the conflicted feelings that ...It's interesting the conflicted feelings that are raised for those of us blogging in this community when we are able to finally achieve pregnancy. I blogged about my IVF cycle in detail, so of course I included my first + HPT and beta levels in that. . . but I then had mixed feelings about continuing to blog during my pregnancy and after.<br /><br />I, for one, always found to be news of a pregnancy for one of my fellow IF ladies much easier to take than news of a pregnancy from the "fertiles" in my life. And even before I had children, I was generally happy for them in a way I often couldn't be for fertile friends and acquaintances.Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08872513410814268769noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-87200132375269692532012-10-09T12:02:50.421-04:002012-10-09T12:02:50.421-04:00We have the right to feel bitter about our loses. ...We have the right to feel bitter about our loses. But I for one know that if I became pregnant I would hope that I wouldn't have to hide my pregnancy from the blogger world. Another woman's pregnancy doesn't affect my chance to become pregnant; unless we are sharing the same guy and on the same cycle and depleting his sperm count. LOLRebeccahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06316511791499949824noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7492793455039836501.post-54533404098968676692012-10-09T11:52:30.003-04:002012-10-09T11:52:30.003-04:00I really love this post Rebecca. It is so true! I ...I really love this post Rebecca. It is so true! I was pretty bitter for a week or so after my ivf failed, but I think that is natural. After I went through all my sorrow, anger, etc. I went back to being supportive. We all need it at different times in our journey.Just Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06315564549299993908noreply@blogger.com