It was a phone meeting. I'm kind of glad it was via phone and not in person nor through video conference too. I'd rather not have the doctor see the faces I was making though I'm sure if he was listening he could probably hear the tone of my voice change a bit.
I had to fight to get even three tests ordered for myself and one for J. The good doctor didn't think any tests were necessary as it "wasn't a pregnancy". It didn't call for repeat pregnancy loss testing.
Now you can guess why I was getting angry. Don't they think I already know it wasn't a "real" pregnancy. But dammit anyway there were embryos put back! They didn't take! So I want answers not just a "it happens".
It has "happened" now three times!
I requested karyotyping on my husband. I requested the RPL full panel. But what I'm getting is three tests to include the antiphosolipid and two other tests he didn't mention but not one will be about clotting disorders. I did mention my dad's heart problems and got cut off before I mentioned that he does bleed out and has anemia. The good doctor said the heart is not a problem in the clotting factor. If only he had let me continue and not cut me off mid track. Nor did I get to remind him that I have arthritis and eczema which are autoimmune disorders and should be checked with that blood panel too. I have no clue if the ANA will be one of the three tests that he has ordered.
As for the karyotyping the good doctor said that it might not be allowed by the Army as the test costs about a grand. Well consider the fact that we have paid out of pocket for two IVFs and now one donor cycle and well lets not forget all those IUIs and still not one pregnancy to show for it I think my husband is a good candidate to have this test done. Not that I'm blaming my spouse but it is possible that something could be wrong since the good doctor kept saying how perfect the donor was and that sometimes something could be wrong with the sperm.
That's right keep contradicting yourself doc.
I had to beg with the good doctor to get the testing done for my peace of mind. I'd rather we know something good but I'll be prepared for the worst too.
Of course I asked again how many eggs it took to make the blastocysts and he still didn't know. I've asked the clinic via phone and in emails many times to have the information ready for the WTF appointment. It wasn't there. The doctor didn't even have J's sperm report handy. Seriously how was the good doctor even prepared for us. 15 minutes late in calling us too. Not like J has anything better to do right? He had to come home from work for this appointment.
On a lighter note:
The stray cat I've been feeding is eating quite well. I feed it a 5.5 ounce can of wet food and 1/2 cup of dry each day. Last night I finally got to see what the cat looks like. Long haired, most likely domestic, black. No clue as to the sex of the cat. Here are some crappy pictures because I didn't want to use flash and scare the critter off.
