Monday, May 14, 2018

Toddler Tyranny

At wit's end I called in a life line.  My friend arrived.  She helped me control my toddler tyrant.  This time I'd had it with E.  After a week straight bout of her temper tantrums I just couldn't take a moment more.

So I cracked.  Yes. My friend brought over a bottle of wine and I cracked it open.  We tuned in the set to a channel E would detest and chatted it up over not one but two bottles of wine while discussing hair coloring and styles.

E still fought her bed time.  She fought the ritual of brushing and flossing.  She fought with door slamming, fake tears, screams and throwing things.  We won out.  She eventually did what she should and went to bed.

So the second month of the deployment hits the mid mark.  DH left me with his spoiled rotten princess to deal with.  The baby I once longed for, the child I would have died for, the one I thought about giving up for adopting at least once this past week when she drove me nuts.

I couldn't take one more kick to my chest, one more head butt to the face, one more bitting, or punch from her.

So the smacks to her butt didn't work.

The smack to her mouth didn't work when she bit me.

The soap in her mouth worked when she said, "Fuck you" to me when I said I wasn't going to get down on my knees to help with her puzzle after my knee popped out of socket.  I haven't heard a dirty word from her mouth since.  I say Farge not Fuck.

She is highly materialistic like her daddy.  So taking away toys after the count down worked.  If she behaves she gets a toy back.  However, her room is quite bare right now.  She has managed to earn two of her toys back.  She didn't lose the toys from the closet.

My child has way too much stuff.  She is spoiled rotten.  I refuse to raise a brat.  She is going to learn and learn now to not be an entitled, selfish person.  If this means I have to take things away from her, smack her butt, her mouth if needed (it is never a hard smack so don't even try to say I'm abusing her), and soap for her filthy mouth she is going to get it.  It worked on the children of my generation and we were the last generation to actually appreciate what we had.

We Americans have been coddling our children way too much.  If we continue to spoil them they won't want to work in those dirty jobs that actually pay well.  They won't give our generation respect like we gave our parents.  They won't do anything but continue to be a burden on society with their continued demands.

I'm going to raise a proper young lady not a brat!


2 comments:

  1. Kids can be so crazy especially when they are toddlers and are trying to deal with their emotions. I do think it is part of our job as parents to show them how to best handle our emotions in a calm manner. Kids kick/bite/hit because they don’t know how to deal with whatever emotion they are feeling (ex: frustration). What really helped us was the book “Hands are not for hitting”. We would read it at night and then the next time my daughter hit we would grab her hands so that she couldn’t do it again and calmly talk to her that hands are not for hitting, gentle hands, etc and talk about what hands are for (high fives, hugs, eating, etc). I read somewhere that you literally have to tell a toddler something 100 times for it to click in their brain so stay consistent and don’t get upset yourself.

    If I told you that there is all kinds of research out there saying that hitting a child doesn’t help them understand not to hit (because you are doing the exact thing you are telling them NOT to do), would it change your mind on “smacking” your daughter? I know that a lot of people were also raised that way but as we learn more about what works/what doesn’t work with parenting, don’t you think sometimes our techniques need to be updated?

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  2. Sigh, I swear it is getting harder now than before. Beanie's latest is saying "you are not the boss of me". Ugh!

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