J bought for me a Seahorse ornament from the Seattle Aquarium for our Christmas tree. I didn't tell him why I wanted that particular ornament except that he had to pick the color out and which one he thought was best. Most of us know that the male seahorse is the one that carries the babies. Rather symbolic I thought of our new path in getting a baby. The Seahorse for me represents that J will be carrying the genetic burden knowing that if anything goes wrong with his kid it isn't the donor's fault but something in his own genetics because our donor isn't a carrier for any of the known defects.
This is the ornament from the gift shop.