Thursday, August 9, 2012

My Shoes

I'm wondering if there is anyone out there in my shoes who has had success at my age with conception with all my problems.

Facts:
43
Army Wife (means at times I'll be doing it all alone)
miscarriages
Endometriosis
Hypertension
Fibromyalgia
CFS
Oh and the list goes on.

But really with the blogging community I'm starting to feel alone.  Its not the fact that there have been a lot of BFPs lately.  If anything it gives me some hope.

But there is the reality.  I'm 43.  I have endometriosis.  I have other health issues.

Has anyone my age been able to get pregnant with these issues?

With their own eggs?

With donor eggs?

Have they been able to carry to term?

If not to term to viability and have that baby survive?

I'm hoping that there is someone out there my age, with similar issues, that can give me a light of hope.  Oh and yes, age does matter to me.  I need to find someone 42-44 or older that has gone through what I have.

I'm not tossing away my friends but I'm looking for someone who is like me that can give me advice.

Is it still advisable to continue on the journey?  Should I try for donor eggs?  Or am I just throwing away a nest egg on a futile hope that the endometriosis won't cause me to reject the embryo?

17 comments:

  1. I shared this post on Twitter; I hope someone can help you out *hugs*

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    1. Thanks Sonja. There are days I just want to throw in the towel.

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  2. That last question sounds like a great question for the donor team. Make them answer it. There must be studies and research on it.

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    1. I actually emailed the clinic already but that was Monday and I've yet to hear back from them. Think I'll email them again.

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  3. Obviously I'm no help, but I want to say that I hope you find someone who can relate and tell you their story

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    1. I hope I find someone too. I have so many questions.

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  4. Rebecca, I completely understand wanting your very own "twin" to have to commiserate with throughout this journey. Alas, although we all struggle and bond with each other over tears of pain and joy, we are in fact all on different paths of this IF journey. I really hope you find someone in the exact same boat to provide both information and relief for you. Thinking of you friend. xoxox

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    1. I have found all of my blogger friends to be an invaluable resource but alas right now I need someone who is basically my "twin" as you put it.

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  5. I am your age and used DE. I only allowed myself one IVF cycle just to satisfy myself on my egg quality. That ended with a chemmical.

    In all honesty, if I had money I would undoubtedly have cycled more with my own eggs a couple more times. I may even have been successful. But given I have no IVF insurance, I do not have unlimited funds and given the dismal stats for 42-43 age group, I made the decision to not gamble with my eggs and go down the path of DE where I had a better chance of success.

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    1. I often talk about you to my spouse, because you are my age, and the fact that you are using DE. I wouldn't wish endo on you or anyone but I am wishing I knew someone that is doing what you have done who has endo, just so that I feel a bit more confident in spending my nest egg.

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    2. I think the best would be to ask the new clinic when get an appt with them. It may be worth even paying OOP to go havea consult soon. I am sure they have dealt with many women with lots of differnt issues.

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  6. Having someone to walk with you on your journey is always a confort. I hope that you find someone soon!! Also, remember, weather or not you do find someone, that the creator is always there for you :D

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  7. Perhaps you can search on Stirrup Queens site to find someone in your age group with Endo. She has a great list of blogs that may help you narrow down who you are looking for. I know it seems daunting, but you will find the right path for you. Good luck R.

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    1. I keep forgetting to check out her page. One would think I would since I'm on her blog roll. Thanks Alyssa for reminding me. Not sure where my brain is today.

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