For those of you that are teachers you might have a bit of an idea of what I'm going through. J brings his work home with him nightly. He has counseling statements, daily plans for PT and work details that have to be written up now that he is a team leader. I'm all for getting your work done but when family time becomes a sacrifice because you not only worked late but also brought home with you more work I get cranky. There are just so many days in a row that I can deal with being ignored and that is 5 consecutive days which is the normal work week.
I didn't marry a soldier, I married a civilian that decided to serve his country after being married for 1.5 years when he got downsized at his former job. I've been married to a soldier before so I do know what it is like to sacrifice family time for work.
- I don't like to be forgotten
- I don't like it when best made plans get shelved
- I don't like it when he can't be there for those infertility appointments. He might not even be there for the transfer of our embryos (yes there are now two and not just one but I'll get to that in another blog post).
- I don't like it when he has to forgo sleep because he gets a CQ shift at the last minute because somebody didn't schedule things properly and the person that was supposed to have the shift can't for some darn reason mucking up all our plans.
- I have to swallow all of my negatives and redirect them to a better outlet because I can't do anything about any of the above with the exception of the first one.
- I can remind him often that I love him.
- I can tell him that I support him.
- I can tell him that I'll still be here waiting for him when he gets home.
I promise too that I'll work harder on this marriage to make a good life for the two of us and any future children.