Friday, December 7, 2012

CD 1

I started this morning.  I rather knew from the ultrasound that this cycle was going to be a bust when even my doctor had no confidence.

I called my clinic and left a message with them to try to schedule a mid cycle ultrasound.  This means if all goes well I'll be ovulating a few days before Christmas.

In other news, a friend offered me a rare gift today.  I met this particular woman while in college.  She is married to one of my husband's friends, again from college.  She and her husband are lucky enough to have three sons.

The gift she offered me was precious.  She, from what she said, has been talking with her husband for a while about what J and I are dealing with in infertility.  She is willing to be the donor and surrogate for J and I.

Now the only problem is that she lives clear across the country.  J doesn't yet know about the offer.  You can bet I'll be talking about it with him tonight.

It is something we'll need to talk about for a while too.


With my stage III endometriosis the chances of me being able to donor eggs and having a baby as a final outcome and not another miscarriage are slim.  I realize that if I do have my friend do all this for me that my insurance won't cover any of it and I'll be paying out-of-pocket.  More to think of.  I can't put us into further debt for my wants and needs.

I can still hope for a miracle.  I don't deserve any more than the next person.

12 comments:

  1. WOW what a touching offer! Even if your insurance doesnt cover her, wouldnt her insurance cover her care?

    OH so exciting, but like you said I am sure there is a LOT to talk about!

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    1. There is a lot on our plate so to speak right now and we'll have to back burner this for a while.

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  2. That's an amazing offer Rebecca. In addition to talking with J about going this route, I would encourage you to talk with an attorney. Surrogacy laws are different state to state, so you need to consider the legal aspect prior to making any decisions.

    Wishing you all the best as you consider this option. It's truly a wonderful gift.

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    1. Oh that is one thing I thought of right off. I have a cousin that is a former lawyer that might be able to guide me to a good one if we go through with this.

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  3. WOW doesn't even begin to cover it! That's amazing!

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    1. I know! Just thinking about having a baby to love that is my husband's makes me excited.

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  4. You might not need medical intervention. You could try a turkey baster first.

    And if you DO need medicine, it might only be an IUI. This is such a beautiful offer!

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    1. No, I'm sure we'll be going the clinical route if we do this since there are many factors to consider.

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  5. Sorry the cycle was a bust :(

    That is a pretty amazing offer from your friend, and definitely a lot to think about and discuss.

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  6. That is an amazing offer. As the previous poster, given she has kids of her own and is fertile, all it could take is just a medicate IUI. How very exciting!!

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  7. What a lovely gift they are offering. I hope you are able to really take the time and talk with them about what this would entail. There is just so much to consider!

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