Friday, May 6, 2011
Military Spouse Appreciation Day
In all the years that I've been married to soldier not once has this day been celebrated. Why? Well I guess its because my spouse never knew about it. Or if he did he had no clue on how to show his appreciation of what I do for him and us.
While my husband took his oath I did not. I was inducted into the military through the backdoor. What do I do? Well I support him. I cook, bake, clean, manage finances, and when he is deployed I do everything else that I humanly can to make sure he will be able to keep his mind set on his mission.
So today all I'm asking for is some appreciation from him. No I don't want a dinner out. That would be for us. I want something for me alone. I'd like him to write me a letter or note telling me why he appreciates what I do for him. It costs nothing but his time and it will mean the world to me. Heck I might even frame it so I can see it daily as a reminder of why I do what I do for him. Especially when things get tough and I'm not liking where our lives are going that letter would make me pause and re-evaluate my anger.
I love my husband. I love him for all that he is and who he will become as we grow old together. The rest is just stuff that I will accept as bumps in the road of our life path.
Will I be upset if he forgets this day? Maybe. But not for long. I can't stay angry at him for long. He has a demanding job. He has forgotten to celebrate other dates like anniversaries and birthdays. But there are always reasons why that happens. Sometimes its because he is in another country and the time difference makes it so he doesn't realize when those special days have passed. Easily enough forgiven.
For now I'll wait to see just how he is going to show his appreciation of me.